Two key words, means a lot to some people and fuck all to others.
I try my best to live my life being as honest and upfront with my thoughts as possible. It antagonises me and angers me when I see people who aren't the same. Sure they have their reasons for it, for not doing so. It may be down to being scared as what others might see, it may be that by shrouding themselves, they feel more protected as a result. However, all that this serves to do is makes things worse. Why? Because then when those that they aren't being honest with, realise this, they feel hurt and may react badly, therefore 'proving' the fear to the one hiding.
I've been hurt so many times in so many different ways, but I would never dream of hiding my true self. It would be very easy for me to do, almost justifiable even, but it would invarably lead to pain to myself later on and certainly to others. Call me soft, but I want to make people happy not cause them pain.
Not being honest is hugely wrong, its selfish and is fundamentally pointless. It causes negative emotions to surface and upsets and angers people. Frankly the main point here is why would anyone want that?
Hi Jimbo. Blogging your thoughts and sharing them is a great idea. It can help sometimes to work through your feelings and release them too. I'm absolutely sure there are many people who identify with your honesty, i for one am one of them.
ReplyDeleteIt's totally morally wrong to mislead someone by not sharing their feelings. I agree that yes the unwillingness to share can be due to underlying issues eg being scared.
It's important to consider other people's feelings as our own actions potentially have an impact on people around us.
Unfortunately, not everyone is aware that their lack of communicating their feelings and being honest about them is even an issue. There can be a number of reasons for this and not deliberately intended to cause hurt and anger. Don't get me wrong, I'm not about to make a load of excuses for them. It doesn't make it right though and you're spot on with what you said about."not being honest is hugely wrong" because it causes further distress.
What's important is that you are being yourself and you're a great person and defo honest and I totally respect for that.
Anita aka acwildfire! :-)
All very good points and thank you for them :-)
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