Something which I most certainly have been thinking recently is the viewpoint of the second chance, the proverbial try again option. Naturally on most things in life then of course there would be no hesitiation to do so, but on those incidents whereby you have been hurt and that, what would then be the stance?
A lot of people I know would believe that you've had your shot, thats it chance gone, see you later. Others however, and I know from seeing them, give chance after chance at the potential of being happy. It seems different people have their own perspective on the entire issue.
I have a prime example with one of my exes. I was seeing her for about a couple of months and then it went belly up, not of my doing, it just did. However a couple of months later we started seeing each other again and the relationship lasted for about two years worth. Sure not all times were good as most relationships experience, but fundamentally in my eyes, it was worth the second shot even though it ultimately came to a close.
My belief here is that up to a cetain degree, second chances are definitely worth a look. A third chance and more is entirely dependant on the scenario but fundamentally most of the time definitely not worth the hassle. If things don't work twice over, then unless a lot of things change, it won't on another go. I am more than willing to give things a second shot in the arm, to see if things can work their way out because unless you try again you'll never know. Certain things happen, go wrong and it is sad when they do, but rather than immediately shut off any chance of a "try again" I'd like to think that the door is always open for another go, to see if they can work out. After that though, there is no further door to go through, two chances and the game is up.
Firstly Jimbo, I would like to apologise for my tardiness in checking your last addition to your blog.
ReplyDeleteAs for second chances, I agree with you that a second chance is worth a shot. Of course it's dependent on the people involved and the situation. However, that said, life can be too short and we maynot be given all the opportunities we'd dearly like to have in a lifetime.
Sometimes when the first chance goes belly up then it can become clearer what issues can be addressed if both parties have thought the situation through and received a wake up call to take action before the opportunity is forever gone.
So, to sum up, if a second comes along and it's you want, go for it. Life is too short for regrets.
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