The Blame Game

Why do people blame others for their failings? Why do people decide that it is beneficial to try to pick holes in someone else as opposed to reflecting at their own misgivings? This is something, which I can never understand, never comprehend. An example of this has happened to me of late.
Recently, I met someone who although I had only met a couple of times, were showing signs that things were going very well, better than that even. I had been introduced to friends and family members and even stayed over the night. Things appeared to be going down the right path, finally my life appeared to be heading in the right direction and things were working their way out for me. Yippee some would say.

Out of the blue however, this was turned on its head. The person in question firstly went down the path of stating that they could only see us as being friends and that although things had been going well, they did not know what they wanted. Fair enough, a portion of blame was admitted. This however, quickly moved to labelling things about me that they didn't like, bizarre things such as my job which fundamentally makes no difference to anything and even more importantly , they were already aware of from the very start.  In fact all of the things which were listed as to what they didn't like, they knew about from the beginning. So a question which would immediately crop up is, why the change? and more over, why allow things to develop in the manner it did if there were such issues involved?

Quite evidently, it was not the list of issues which were thrown in my face which were creating any problem, something else was. What this is I could speculate for days on end, but frankly is pointless and a waste of my time and energy. What should have happened and indeed what would have been the decent thing is to have been honest, but there you go.

One magnificent quote which I also got thrown was that they felt that I was developing feelings for them too quickly. Some might say from the outset that there may be a point here, but the key argument here though is that, are you exactly surprised? If you meet someone and within a short space of time invite them round your house to stay the night and introduce them to your nearest and dearest people and generally be taking good positive things about you to those said parties, then what would you expect to see happen? Would a normal person be expected to act blaise about it all or would it perhaps be considered relatively ok for them to think "oooh this seems to be going rather well, I'm really connecting with this person and I hope that this continues" as it was.

Thing is, yes I know I can be guilty of falling too quickly for someone, but surely in some respects that is a good thing? The last thing anyone wants is someone who couldn't give a flying crap regardless of the circumstances presented in front of them surely. I wear my heart on my sleeve, I state what I think and fundamentally I'm open and honest to those around me, especially those that I plan to develop a close relationship too. Is this such a bad thing? I highly doubt it.